Not Parent Expected: The Unexpected Impact of DNA Ancestry Tests
In recent years, the appeal of Direct-to-Consumer (DTC) DNA ancestry tests has grown enormously, offering insights into ancestral origins and connections with previously unknown relatives. However, these tests can sometimes reveal life-altering surprises – such as discovering that an assumed parent is not a biological parent. This type of revelation, referred to as a “Not Parent Expected” (NPE) event, can have a profound effect on mental health, identity, and family relationships.
The Emotional and Psychological Toll of NPE Discoveries
A recent study published in BMC Psychiatry found that many individuals who receive unexpected DNA results experience significant emotional upheaval. These discoveries can lead to a reassessment of one’s personal history and a fundamental shift in identity. Common reactions include grief, confusion, betrayal, and a sense of loss, particularly when the news leads to strained relationships with parents who withheld the truth.
Not All DNA Surprises Are Negative
While many people associate these discoveries with distress, it’s important to recognise that some individuals experience positive outcomes. For some, these revelations bring clarity, healing, or a long-awaited sense of belonging. Finding a biological parent who is open and accepting, connecting with new siblings, or simply uncovering long-missing information can be incredibly validating.
In other cases, people report feeling relieved upon learning that their upbringing does not define them genetically – especially if they had a difficult relationship with the assumed parent. Some individuals even embrace newly discovered cultural or ancestral roots, deepening their sense of identity in a meaningful way.
The Importance of Support
Regardless of whether the experience is joyful, distressing, or somewhere in between, support is essential. Many people turn to spouses, friends, mental health professionals, or peer communities to process the news. In Australia, support is available through groups like:
- Donor Conceived Australia – An organization offering support and advocacy for donor-conceived individuals, including resources related to DNA discoveries.
- DNA Surprise Support Group Australia – A Facebook community for Australians navigating unexpected DNA results.
- Jigsaw Queensland – Based in Brisbane, Jigsaw Queensland is a non-profit, member-based organisation providing professional and peer support to individuals affected by adoption and donor conception. They offer services such as information, referral, search and reunion assistance, emotional support, and monthly support group meetings.
- Beyond Blue – Offers national mental health helplines and support groups, which can be beneficial for individuals dealing with the emotional impact of unexpected DNA results.
- Hunting for Truth – Offers a genetic genealogy service that combines genetic data with traditional family history research to help you trace your roots and discover your connections.
Online support groups and forums can be especially helpful, offering connection, understanding, and reassurance from others who have been through similar experiences.
How Identilab Can Assist
The journey of self-discovery through DNA testing can be exciting, but it also holds the potential for unexpected and life-changing surprises. It’s essential for individuals to have access to accurate testing and supportive resources to help them navigate these revelations. At Identilab, we recognise the complex emotions accompanying these discoveries. Our DNA testing services, including our at Home Paternity Test, Maternity DNA Test, Legally Admissible Test, Kinship / Sibling DNA Test & Twin DNA test are designed to provide accurate and confidential results, helping individuals confirm biological relationships with certainty. Whether confirming paternity, maternity, or extended family relationships, Identilab ensures reliable results, empowering clients to navigate their personal journeys with clarity and confidence. We understand the transformative power of these discoveries and are dedicated to providing a compassionate and supportive environment.
If you’ve had a surprising DNA discovery or simply want clarity about a biological relationship, we’re here to help. Contact Identilab today for confidential advice and accurate testing you can trust. Call us on 1300 114 294 or email [email protected] to get started.
